How To Be A Mom And Go To School
5 Ways To Balance Being A Mom With Other Responsibilities (50%)
Balancing is not always easy to achieve- whether it’s balancing on one leg during the eagle pose in yoga class or balancing motherhood and your education, the task of balancing can leave you with the question of how? How is it possible to balance being a mother and full-time student? I asked myself this same question a few years ago. When I became a mother, I felt that my education and career had to be put on hold. After further research and taking the plunge to finish my degree, I am happy to say that you don’t have to put your education on hold. It is very possible to balance being a mother and a full-time student. Here are five simple ways that I’ve found to balance parenting and going to school.
Online school and flexible class schedules
The future isn’t predictable, look for a program that offers flexibility. If you haven’t already enrolled into a program this is a good opportunity to do some research. There are many universities that provide the opportunity to earn a degree online. A few that come to mind are Arizona State University, Purdue University Global, and Southern New Hampshire University because they had the writing program I wanted. If the program you’re interested in isn’t available online, don’t worry. There are many universities that provide flexible schedules. Being a full-time student isn’t your only option. At times, it is more feasible for a parent to study part-time. Additionally, if you are already enrolled in school full-time and you are finding it challenging, I encourage you to speak with your college advisor. An advisor will have helpful tips and they can change your schedule to part-time for the next term.
It is definitely normal to feel overwhelmed at first. Setting your priorities will create a sense of ease. Something that helps me is writing down my list of daily tasks. There are some days where I may have to skip going to the gym or skip a lunch date with a friend. It is all about setting your priorities. What comes first and what can wait? It may sound silly, but sometimes my task will be- “take my child to the park for an hour today” I know I should remember to make quality time for my child but going to school keeps you busy and it can be easy to forget. Setting your priorities and writing them out will make balancing more manageable.
Now that you have your priorities set, the next step is to stay organized. Staying organized is vital to keep balanced as you juggle your life of motherhood and being a student. I am currently balancing motherhood, classes, and a writing internship. It is a lot of dedication to balance the three and staying organized keeps me going. One way to stay organized is to manage your time. Take a look at your calendar and your “to do” list so you know what is planned for the week ahead.
Have a support system
A support system can be anyone in your life- your significant other, your mother, your sibling, your friends, or a babysitter- anyone who supports you and who can help care for the children. It was difficult for me to ask for help at first, but one day a fellow mom friend came to me and gave me some advice. She let me know that one day, after feeling very overwhelmed, she finally decided to ask for help from trusted people in her life. She said that to her surprise they were very willing to help her out. I remember her exact words “What a relief it was to finally have a support system!” I finally learned to ask and to accept the help that was offered to me. More often than not, the ones who love and care for you will be there for you.
Don’t be too hard on yourself
There will be times where you won’t check off everything on your to do list. Like I said before, the future isn’t predictable and there will be times where you’ll need to roll with the punches. Try not to get too worked up if you miss one school event that week- try not to put yourself down if you have to skim through the required reading that week. There will be days where balancing everything will be harder than others. Do your best and keep it going!
Now that you know five simple ways to stay balanced, I encourage you to try it out! My last comment to the supermoms who are balancing motherhood, school, a job, an internship, and a social life, is this- Know that balancing motherhood and college is hard work, but the rewards are worth it! Gwen Stefani, a mother and famous musician, made this statement in an interview with Glamour UK, “I've always worked really hard, and the hardest thing I've ever done is have kids! All of it—everything from getting up in the morning to trying to be consistent to trying to have the right feelings. But, of course, the rewards are so great." Keep going and do your very best to stay balanced. I know you will do great!