Grandparents give you the extra love that you never knew you needed. The pandemic is complex for everyone, especially for older people. It's time to give back the love and patience that they've showered you with. Caring for grandparents is no obligation at all; it is a privilege and an honor. Yes, they can be grumpy and sensitive, but these are consequences of being lucky enough to live longer than most do.
It is easy to forget that they were once youthful and very active; it must be frustrating to be old and restricted. Their peculiarity is understandable and most forgivable. Therefore, they deserve every bit of concern, care, patience, and unwavering love.
Here are some ways you can take care of your grandparents or any older people in your family:
Keep your grandparents informed with the latest updates about the pandemic and current events. Vital information will help them obtain a sense of being up to date and feel the warmth of security to the notion that their grandkids care about them. They may have opinions and hints of stubbornness; this is expected from most of them. The old ways were quite different, and it's the only way they know of. Be patient and extra kind to them, they need it the most, and of all the people in the world, they deserve it the most.
Teach them how to use gadgets to watch the news or videos on YouTube to pass the time or communicate directly with you. It will take a considerable amount of patience, but they will eventually learn and get the hang of it. If you feel like such an ordeal is taking so much time, remember that they were patient with you first when they helped you use utensils to eat, learn how to walk, and utter your first sentences.
This time the roles have reversed. It's time for you to show your gratitude and remind them that you didn't forget the patience that they've taught you.
It is a pandemic, after all. Though everyone is vulnerable, grandparents are the most susceptible. Their physical prowess has diminished through the course of longevity. The maintenance of their health is of paramount importance.
They will shrug and brush it off; they will say they're fine, but that's what good grandparents do. They refuse to be some hassle for others. It is wise to be circumspect when it comes to their health. Double-check and find a home health aide who can verify the status of their health. These are the exact times when you need to show some tough love, which is what they need.
Old age naturally restricts a once youthful and vibrant person's mobility, capacity, and capability. Your grandparents need extra help if you find yourself busy and if the budget permits, find someone who can check on them daily or a healthcare provider who can stay with them. It's more or less like a babysitter for adults, an adult sitter who can perform tasks that might be too exhausting for them to do.
Ask them if there are some errands that they might want you to do. Their mobility is restricted, especially during a pandemic. They are not encouraged at all to leave the confines of their home, and it's too risky.
They are independent individuals who just succumbed to the deterioration of youthfulness. To inquire, and inquire some more, there is always something they want to be done or bought, and maybe they don't want to bother you. It may be a silly errand to you, but it might be the whole world for them.
So check on them. Not just out of mindless obligation but because you want to. Have a healthy conversation, and they have loads of stories to tell.
Old age ignites a portion of the brain responsible for recall; this supports the findings on why senior people can remember moments and fond memories of their childhood. Having a conversation with someone who lived when you weren't even born yet can be pretty amusing. Your imagination will wander and paint a golden picture of what it was like before, of a time that once was, of an era that has ended, or a chapter that has closed.
If you find yourself entangled with your personal and daily life, and it just hits you, you've realized that it's been a while since you've talked to your grandparents. That's the exact moment to call them again.
Find out how they're doing, what's new, and if there's something that they might want you to do. Follow upon them.
It doesn't have to be a special day to send something you know your grandparents will appreciate. It can be a book that they've always wanted to read, a puzzle, or seeds of plants that they will love. To be practical about it, they will appreciate almost anything that you will give. After all, the idea that someone remembers them is a gift in itself.
Spend a little more time with them. Consider planning a visit; make sure you won't compromise their health and if it's viable to do so. If not, then have a face-to-face video call, compliment how they look or how lovely their dress or shirt is. Make them feel like they're still part of this world. Keep them posted with what you're up to too. They would love to hear about your day and of things going on in your life.
Your first encounter of love is with your parents and grandparents. They are part of your circle labeled loved ones. They've shown it to you in numerous ways. This concept of love, as a result, has embedded within you; subconsciously, you are who you are because of the love they've shown and shared with you.
You, too, may soon have the opportunity and gift to become a grandparent someday. You will eventually know what it's like to be in their shoes, and it will be such a pleasant thought to have had the privilege of having grandparents yourself, to have peace in the confidence of the idea that they are grateful for the love and patience you've shown to them. Where they were treated as not just some older person to be tucked away from society, but rather, despite their old age, they still matter, and that they will always be loved.
When you grow old, a part of your brain that's responsible for recalling will be ignited, too. Hence, it will be wise to invest in good memories now, while you still can.