Raising Twins: How to Handle Parent Fatigue

Having twins is double the joy, double the love, but also double the work. It's no surprise that parent fatigue is common when raising two babies at once. This article offers tips on how parents of twins can manage fatigue and avoid burnout.

The Challenges of Sleep Deprivation

Sleep deprivation is arguably the biggest contributor to fatigue for parents of newborn twins. Twins rarely sleep at the same time, meaning you're up with one or both babies every few hours, day and night. This disrupted sleep pattern leaves parents utterly exhausted. Be kind to yourself - accept that functioning on minimal sleep is difficult. Ask family and friends for help with night feeds or household chores so you can rest. Take naps when the babies are both asleep. Sleep training can help them learn to self-settle but it takes time and consistency. 

Share the Load

Having a supportive partner to share the workload is invaluable. Take turns being "on duty" so you both get breaks. Split parental leave if possible, so one parent stays home initially and the other takes over later on. Hire help if it’s affordable - a night nurse, mother's helper, or housekeeper - even for just a few hours a week. Say yes to offers of meals, childcare help or errand running from family and friends.

Lower Standards

It's easy for parents to feel pressure to keep on top of chores and tasks. With twins, something's got to give. Don't worry about tidiness or home-cooked meals every night. Stick to basics like laundry and grocery shopping. Order takeaway or prep simple freezer meals. Leave the deep cleaning or garden weeding for another season of life. Give each other permission to let things slide.

Exercise and Healthy Eating

It can be hard to find time or energy for self-care with twins. But exercise and nutrition are key to fighting fatigue. Take the babies out for brisk walks - the pram ride may even lull them to sleep. Do quick home workouts during naptime. Prepare grab-and-go healthy snacks like yoghurt, fruit and nuts. Stay hydrated and limit caffeine which can affect sleep. Say no to "mum juice" - alcohol won't help fatigue!   

If you need a energy quick boost, try some glucose chews with added vitamins, like Lift Glucose Activ.

Bonding Time

Make sure each parent gets one-on-one time with every baby daily. Taking one twin while your partner has the other gives you both a break and lets you connect individually. Cuddle, gaze into their eyes, sing songs and read stories. This bonding time reduces stress and reminds you of the positives of parenting.

Seek Support

Don't hesitate to see your GP if fatigue becomes overwhelming. Postnatal depression in both mums and dads can cause exhaustion. Be honest with your health visitor too. Local twin parent support groups can also provide solidarity and advice. 

Remind yourself this phase won't last forever. With teamwork, time and rest, you'll make it through the haze of the early years.