Bedroom Secrets Keep Your Love Life Alive

A challenge of our busy and often chaotic lives is the art of keeping romance alive in our relationships, and it’s no easy feat with all the tasks that demand our time each day. It may take some time and a bit of effort to keep a spark of romance in the bedroom, but everything worthwhile does. And a master bedroom suite is a very important space in a relationship—one that inspires love, romance and intimacy between partners.

Unfortunately, the pace of life can crush this important detail, and the master bedroom often becomes just the place we finally crash in exhaustion at the end of each day. But keeping some tips in mind will help to keep this space a romantic hideaway from the rest of the chaos.

One of the most obvious things to remember is to make the bed each and every day. An unmade bed feels chaotic and unorganized—and definitely not romantic. It only takes a minute or two each day to maintain a large about of the room’s focus.

Similarly, keep clutter out. Piles of laundry—either clean or dirty—are simply reminders of impendent chores. The same goes with unopened mail, paperwork and other stuff that are simply distractions. Ban chores from the master suite! This is not the place for them. Romance involves talking with your partner and reconnecting at the end of each day. The bedroom is the place to make intimacy happen, not the place to make your to-do list happen.

Another tip is to personalize your space. Place memorabilia from trips together, a dried flower from your first date or pictures of you together in happy moments. If you surround yourselves with these treasures that trigger wonderful memories, you easily reinforce the love you share with each other.

When planning your master suite, think of all your senses and try to address each one. You should walk in and see a beautifully decorated tidy space when you enter. Feminine touches such as lace pillows, billowy fabrics, fresh cut flowers, feathers and more can enhance the mood in the bedroom. Mood lighting is also essential. Try soft candlelight or lamplight in the bedroom rather than a glaring overhead light, and remember to keep the television off. Dimmers installed on light switches are an easy and economical way to adjust the lighting to fit any mood.

Add beautiful scents by using scented linen sprays, aromatic candles or incense, and perfumes to tickle and tantalize your sense of smell. Memories, comfort and romance are related to smells. Remember to keep the scent in your bedroom unique and different from the rest of the house. Add textures that are rich and sumptuous to the touch, such as velvets, soft furry throws and sleek satins. And stimulate your ears with soft, passionate music to soothe the mind and melt away the stress of the day.

Just because you aren’t in the kitchen, don’t forget to stimulate the sense of taste. Try bringing in a decanter of delicious full-bodied red wine, a chilled bottle of Champagne on ice, some sparkling water with fresh mint or lemon or a fresh hot pot of tea to sip while you chat and catch up on each other’s day. Pair one of these beverages with a platter of fresh fruits and tasty cheeses or some decadent chocolate truffles to relish together while you reconnect. And while you’re at it, why not use your fine china and best crystal? Every day should be special, and this moment is no different.

Finally, don’t forget to dive into the lingerie drawer and ditch the t-shirt and flannels from time to time. You won’t be sorry.