Does it feel like your connection with your partner is a little… stale?
Trust us, you're not alone. Relationships that last the long haul have a way of going from sizzling romance to routine fast.
The issue? In the words of Carrie Bradshaw: how do you keep the connection with your partner "still exciting and new?"
Well, the good news is you can. The other good news? There are a TON of ways to connect deeper with your partner.
You have choices: get adventurous and experience something new together, spark fresh conversation by watch cam girl shows online together for new ideas, or get creative in the bedroom. From spicing up your dates to exploring kinks together, read on to learn 10 ways to relight the spark.
In This Guide:
Why The Spark Goes Out (And What To Do About It)
Easy Communication Tricks That Work
Exploring Your Physical Side
Fun & Fresh Ways To Date
Why The Spark Goes Out (And What To Do About It)
Most relationships start off with butterflies in the stomach.
Chemistry is high, and you can't keep your hands off one another.
Then, real life hits.
Jobs, stress, bills, errands, and responsibilities all start to pile up. Before you know it, the spark between you two takes a back seat to all the other things that "need to get done."
But here's the real eye-opener: just 28% of couples say they have sex with their partner at least once a day. That means 72% of couples aren't connecting at least that much!
What gives?
The fact is, maintaining connection requires constant work. Couples who think a relationship should "just work" are setting themselves up for a big disappointment. The second you take your partner for granted, the second the spark fizzles out.
Easy Communication Tricks That Work
What's the quickest and easiest way to get you back on track to a deep connection?
Communication.
We're not just talking about "Did you feed the dog?" or "Where are my pants?"
Deep communication means talking about your desires, your fears, your fantasies, and all the things in between.
But what most people get wrong is…
The timing of these conversations.
Sure, you're going to talk when something's wrong.
The secret to a happy relationship? Schedule in the happy conversations, too.
Set up a regular "relationship check-in" where you and your partner sit down and talk about how you feel about things. No phones. No TV. Just the two of you and honest communication.
Use this time to talk about what's working well and where you both want the relationship to go. It's amazing how many little problems can build up and damage your relationship before this type of communication happens.
Exploring Your Physical Side
Think intimacy only happens in the bedroom?
Don't be fooled.
Touch is a key part of physical connection and can happen in a variety of ways.
Research shows that non-sexual touch throughout the day has all sorts of benefits for relationship connection. Morning hugs, hand-holding while watching a show, and a good backrub at the end of a long day all create an undercurrent of intimacy.
The cool part is, it also leads to sex.
When you're touching all the time in non-sexual ways, sex becomes a natural extension of that desire and connection.
Fun ideas to try:
Surprise your partner with a kiss while they're cooking dinner
Hold hands while watching TV
Cuddle together while snuggling up and watching Netflix
Give each other back rubs or foot rubs
Wake up and go to sleep hugging
The point is to create non-sexual touch. You can talk and cuddle, but you don't have to orgasm. All this will do is strengthen that undercurrent of sexual tension between you two.
Fun & Fresh Ways To Date
One thing that seems to go out the door with long-term relationships is the actual dating.
We get it, you're not in high school anymore. But that doesn't mean you have to give up on the fun stuff.
One of the quickest ways to build intimacy and rekindle the spark is to start dating your partner again.
Think a little outside the box when you plan those dates. The best kind of dates are the ones where you create a new memory together.
Try taking a class on something neither of you know anything about. You can both learn as you go and have fun making mistakes.
Plan surprise dates. You pick where your partner goes, and they plan where you go.
Have themed nights at home. Make homemade pasta on Italian night or tacos on Mexican night.
Get into a new show together or try to watch cam girl shows online together for even more inspiration. The main goal is to have fun and learn new things about each other. Shared experience creates a shared connection.
Trying New Things Together
One thing most people forget to mention is, you can also have fun by spicing up the bedroom.
We're not talking about anything weird or kinky here unless that's what you both like.
We mean things like:
Trying a new sex position
Having sex in a different room or location in the house
Roleplaying
Trying out sex toys or sex games
Learning new sex moves by watch cam girl shows online as a couple
Having sex at a different time of day or night
Asking each other questions about desires
Playing with each other
Talking out loud
Whatever it is you want to do, the most important thing is to have fun.
Nuh-uh. Keep an open mind, ask questions, and give your partner the go-ahead before doing anything new.
There's a difference between playing and performing.
Ask your partner what they want. Share your desires, and the two of you can work together to figure out how to do that thing you've both been wanting to try.
As long as you and your partner are in it together and both having a good time, you're golden.
The Importance Of Being Vulnerable
The quickest way to create deep connection?
Practice vulnerability.
Being vulnerable means opening up about your feelings and sharing parts of yourself that are raw and real.
When we share our fears, dreams, insecurities, and desires with someone, that person gets to see our true selves, the parts of us that we sometimes hide or keep hidden even from those we love most.
Opening up about our hopes and dreams, our failures and fears all build an intimacy that physical connection alone can't match.
It also means letting your partner see your flaws and accepting theirs in return. It's okay to be imperfect together.
Maintaining a relationship connection isn't easy.
It takes work and consistent effort to keep the spark alive.
The good news is you have a lot of options. Keep dating your partner. Communicate frequently, openly, and honestly. Try new things and be adventurous. Get creative in the bedroom. Connect through touch outside of the bedroom.
Little changes here and there can all make a big difference in the long run. All it takes is a little effort and some fun, honest conversation between you two.
Start small, keep the lines of communication open, and have fun with it. The two of you will be amazed by how far these small efforts can take your relationship.
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