How to Get Out of Your Routine and Spice Things Up in the Bedroom

Every relationship has a tipping point wherein the activities in the bedroom begin to become routine and monotonous. Ordinary sex leads to some unsatisfactory nights, which can lead to a damaged relationship between couples.  

But before you try some of the things on the list, make sure you talk with your partner, and both of you must agree that things need to heat up and that you'll be open to new things under the covers (well, some might involve going out of the bodies). Here are some tips to get out of the routine and spice things up:

1. Introduce Sex to Games

Games and sex make people happy. Combining both activities may seem like a no-brainer, but couples tend to get lazy and do one or the other. Be creative in incorporating sex and play. If you like to play video games, there's no reason to challenge each other, and the winner gets a sexy act as a reward. Before long, you'd be dropping the controllers and - your pants. It's important to note that you don't necessarily have to win every time because, in the end, you'll both get the same prize.

2. Costumes and Lingerie

Men are visual beings; most of the things that turn them to involve the things they see. Discuss with your partner what your sexual fantasies are. Characters and such, and make time to fulfill each of them. Sexy costumes are practical and fantasy lingerie, basically anything that plays with the imagination to make it relate to sex. It's also essential that your lady be comfortable with what they wear and don't fall with the compliments.

3. The Art of A Quickie

A great quickie consists of spontaneity and a good surprise. The latter is essential, so you won't just grab your partner while she's doing the dishes - well, you can if she's into a quickie. You are adding a small time-constraint element to a quickie like after you've dressed up before going to work or a party can turn things up as long as it's not rude like keeping your friends waiting while you're having fun. A surprise will be a contrast to that boring scheduled sex you have right now.

4. Sex Ambiance

You can set a date where you can put out all the stops and create a sexy ambiance at home with flowers, delicious dinner, candles, and essential oils. It may sound cliche by movie standards, but it's important to treat you and your partner to some relaxation and erotic touching, which can lead to a night of passion. Taking away the stress of daily life can help couples get in touch with the basic stuff such as their physical relationship.

5. Different Times of Day

Aside from a quickie, changing things up can involve having sex in the morning or sometime in the afternoon. Women who like to start their day great may want to have sex with their partners when they wake up. They can give them an oral; it won't take long because it already is hard, your man will be grateful for it. And you'll feel invigorated, which you can take for the rest of the day.

If you want to be more adventurous, you can take off work early and spend an entire afternoon making each other forget about daily reports and have a nice dinner afterward. You'll be able to sleep better at night, and you'll have more energy the next day.

6. Build The Anticipation

People, especially men, want what they can't have. So you can build anticipation by walking around in your underwear and not let him touch you. And then, you spend the day telling him what you'll do to him and what you'll let him do later. Men can also repay their partners by spritzing some aftershave or cologne on the bedsheets. The smell will remind her of you and what she has to look forward to when you get home.

7. Kiss As You Mean It

When was the last time you kissed? Not just a peck on the lips or cheeks, but a make-out session like high school students on weekends. Sometimes reminding each other of how you want to kiss can make things real hot and passionate.

The key to this is always open communication. When you're comfortable sharing thoughts and ideas with your partner, it usually leads to things that can overcome some challenges in your relationship. A rut in bed is no exception. By talking, you'll be able to discuss how you'll do the things on the list and maximize the deed to get the most pleasure.