The Evolution of Weddings

Throughout the centuries, rituals have changed and evolved. Various cultures have different traditions and customs for weddings. In Western countries, we imagine the bride wearing a white dress and rice being tossed at the happy newlyweds after they have recited their nuptials. How did these traditions begin? What is the symbolism for throwing rice at the newly married couple? And why shouldn’t the bride and groom see one another prior to the ceremony? Let’s review some history and modern-day rituals.

Why Rice, Wheat, and Raisins? The Wacky World of Wedding Traditions

When it comes to weddings, we planners have seen it all—glamour, glitz, and the occasional awkward mishap. One of my favorite traditions to giggle over with couples is the age-old custom of throwing rice. But here's the kicker: the Romans, who started this trend, actually tossed wheat! Yes, that's right, wheat, the original symbol of fertility. Rice swooped in later as the Western world’s version of wishing the couple prosperity. What’s even funnier is that in some cultures, after the rice is tossed, the couple is supposed to eat it. Now, I don’t know about you, but rice with a side of veil sounds like a mouthful of bad wedding planning!

For those of you not into rice pelting, don’t worry, there are other options. Italy does things sweeter—newlyweds there get showered with candy and sugared nuts. In Morocco, it's raisins. Talk about getting your daily fruit intake on the happiest day of your life!

The Gown: Red, White, or Something In Between?

Ah, the wedding gown—the ultimate test of patience, style, and, well, endurance (brides can spend hours trying on dresses!). Now, here’s a fun fact: If you time-traveled back to the 16th century, you wouldn’t see a white dress anywhere. Brides wore red gowns, which, let's face it, would hide the wine stains from the reception much better than white. Queen Victoria changed the game in 1840 when she showed up to her royal wedding in white, launching the tradition that has dominated Western weddings ever since.

That said, not all brides today want the standard white dress. Alya Zahid, owner of H.KLES Bridal in Rancho Santa Fe, reminds me all the time that sometimes brides enter the boutique with one idea and leave with something completely different. “You just never know until you try it on,” she says. Whether it’s a sleek, modern gown or one with some boho flair, the key is to feel comfortable and stunning (because who wants to be tugging at straps all night?). From dresses with a blush or nude lining to those fancy bell sleeves, there are endless ways to make a wedding gown feel unique and personal.

Superstition or Smart Decision? The First Look Dilemma

Let’s talk about the classic superstition: the bride and groom shouldn't see each other before the ceremony. This bit of wedding folklore stems from the days of arranged marriages (no one wanted the bride or groom backing out!). While most modern couples don’t buy into this superstition, there are still plenty who shy away from the “first look.” For others, the first look is a magical moment—a quiet time to soak in the love before the whirlwind of vows and dancing begins.

Personally, I say, do what makes your heart sing. Whether it's keeping the tradition alive or getting that Insta-worthy first look photo, your wedding is about creating the memories you want to cherish.

Accessories and Hairstyles: Keep It Fun, Keep It You

If there’s one thing that adds fun (and flair!) to a wedding look, it’s the accessories. Ginny Lopez of Something Bleu Bridal Boutique in Oceanside loves to recommend accessories based on the gown’s vibe. For brides sporting a lot of lace, the dress can speak for itself. But if you’re going for a simpler look, a bit of sparkle in your hair could add that final touch of magic. Vines, crowns, and subtle jeweled accessories have become popular, especially for brides marrying outdoors, where nature can be part of the day’s aesthetic.

Now, let’s talk hair. If you thought wedding dresses were the only fashion statement, think again. Messy, boho hair is in (and a huge relief to those of us who may not want to spend hours perfecting every strand). Brides are embracing the “natural look” and pulling off everything from loose waves to updos with delicate braids. It’s all about showcasing your personal style and feeling comfortable from the first “I do” to the last dance.

Final Thoughts: Let the Day Be Yours

Remember, planning a wedding is like organizing the biggest, most fabulous party of your life. Sure, there are traditions, customs, and superstitions, but ultimately, this day is about you and your partner. Whether you’re dodging rice, wearing red, or dancing barefoot under the stars, the key to a fun and memorable wedding is to do it your way—and enjoy every single moment!

In conclusion, whether you're picking a dress, choosing accessories, or embracing some quirky traditions, this day is your day to shine. So breathe, laugh, and have a fabulous time planning your dream wedding!

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